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Soul Mate Connections

Copyright Maria Shaw 2003

Have you ever met someone and instantly fell head over heels in love? Some of you may not believe in love at first sight. But for those of you who have experienced it, you definitely know what it feels like. Your eyes meet for the first time, your heart skips a beat and you feel flushed, anxious and infatuated all at the same time.

As a professional astrologer, who specializes in relationships and romance, clients often ask me "When will I meet my soul mate?" A common misconception is that soul mates are always romantic partners. They do not necessarily have to be lovers, husband or wives, boyfriends or girlfriends. My definition of a soul mate connection is two souls walking the same spiritual path, working together to achieve a higher purpose or learn an important lesson.

If the person you consider to be a soul mate happens to be your lover or spouse, all the better. That makes the relationship even more special. But remember, a soul mate can be your best friend, your child and for you pet lovers, even man's best friend!

If you believe in the theory of reincarnation, look at soul mates this way; before you were born into this current lifetime, your soul made a contract with someone else to "hook up", to meet again or get back together.

There's several reasons souls would make such an agreement.

1. To pay a debt
2. To receive payment of a debt
3. To learn a lesson
4. To right a wrong
5. Because of an early death in a former lifetime
6. For the soul's growth
7. To complete or finish something
8. To help another soul
9. Out of love

There are many different types of soul mate connections. Here's a few of the most common.

1. Family
2. Soul groups
3. Past life connections
4. Soul friends
5. Soul mates/lovers

The Family Connection

Most of our past life connections are with family members. Whether your realize it or not,, we choose our parents. This selection is made to assist us with working on some of the most intense issues regarding emotional security, trust, guilt and even fear. Parents represent our very first relationships and they give us the chance to work out our soul's lessons early in life. If we don't, we later draw lovers or partners to help us learn and complete the process. Our most meaningful relationships are designed for the soul's growth. Even the negative ones have something to offer. Have you ever heard someone say "I married my mother!" If you see yourself in that statement, there's likely an issue you need to work out with mom that you didn't. Now you have drawn a partner with a similar personality to help you do just that.

Soul Groups

Many people reincarnate in "Soul Groups." These are the souls born into the same families over many lifetimes. Some souls naturally gravitate towards certain groups of people who have "agreements" to come back together. Many times souls groups are born during a particular period in time or in a generation to learn specific lessons. They may find themselves working together for a unified cause, fighting a war in a specialized unit or even working third shift in a hospital emergency ward. One example of a soul group may be children born right before the Great Depression. These folks needed to be part of that learning experience. What about those that fought in Vietnam? Likely a soul group. And those that died in the tragedy of 911? Definitely a soul group.

Most souls that reincarnate connect with others they felt close to in former lifetimes. Think of all of the families, lovers, and friends that were torn apart over the past hundreds of years, either due to famine, disease or war. They come back, to lovingly reunite or work on unfinished business...some to save the world.

Past Life Connections

Almost everyone you meet that plays a significant role in your life or makes a "difference" in some way, is likely a past life connection. Past life ties do not necessarily have to be soul mates. Bonds from previous incarnations are formed with many people over the span of numerous lifetimes. Some of these connections are quite positive. Others are negative. That's why you experience "deja vu" or familiar feelings with certain individuals. People come and go in our lives everyday. It's the people who make an impact that we need to take note of.

No relationship that is truly important to us can be "neutral". It's either very positive or very negative. You should warmly embrace all of your past life connections whether they be "good or bad". Be especially thankful for the challenging ones because you have an opportunity to release heavy karma. Please keep in mind, that even if a relationship ends badly, your soul can still learn, grow and heal from the connection. Perhaps the other person soul's is needing to make a connection for their soul's growth as well. These relationships need not always be intense but will have an effect on you in some way that changes your life or outlook. Past life connections are not as strong as soul mate ties but they are important because they give each of us a chance to re-connect with souls from past lifetimes for a variety of reasons. Sometimes, the reason is as simple as missing one another. There are usually lessons associated with these connections and as we work through the issues presented, some develop into long term commitments.

Soul Friends

These are the dear friends from former lifetimes you mingle with in this one. They touch your heart and are there for you through thick and thin. Soul friends talk about everything and share the wildest secrets (the ones you wouldn't dare tell your husband or wife). They celebrate life's joys and sorrows with you. These are your very best friends. Perhaps you haven't seen one another for years, but reunite at some point. You and your soul friend will be able to pick right up, where you left off. No amount of time or space diminishes the bond. Youngsters have many soul friends, even imaginary ones. It's all part of the growth process. Think about your best friends. How have they made a difference in your life?

The Lovers/Soul Mate Connection

Many times when people are in a wonderful relationship, they tend to think they've found their elusive soul mate.

People who feel this way describe a deep soul-stirring emotion. They've been in love before, but nothing like this. They feel no jealousy, no fear and no threats to the relationship. They feel at peace and complete.

Yes, there is a strong possibility they have found a soul mate. But there are many different types of soul mates and they do not necessarily have to be lovers, spouses or romantic interests. Yet, the majority are. Soul mates come together because they are working on the same type of karma in this lifetime. A soul draws to it what it lacks or needs to complete its mission. On spiritual paths, souls are drawn to one another because they feel a strong connection.

Each desires what the other has to fulfill itself and become one. The feeling is not one of infatuation or obsession. It is peace. It is knowing you are supposed to be with a particular person for some higher purpose.

Once you've found your soul mate, it is important to know, that you may not choose to be together your during this entire lifetime. Yes, legions of soul mates stay together till death do they part, but just as many part ways once their karma is complete. Still many people never meet their soul mate. This is not a bad thing. It's just that their soul is choosing to walk its path alone. That is their karma. The most serious of all karmic lessons and unyielding soul "contracts" can be found in our most intimate relationships. This is why our souls desperately seek out past life connections and soul mates. We're eager to fulfill our lessons so we must reunite.

If you haven't made that special connection with anyone yet, it will happen! If friends and family are urging you to settle down and claim you're just being "too picky", listen only to your heart. When you meet your soul mate, you'll know. The feeling will be different than anything else you've ever experienced before. Your soul has already chosen the right lover for you. Be patient. It will happen when the time is right for you to work on creating or finishing some wonderful karma together.

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